It seems like every time I start to be really good friends with a guy, everyone automatically assumes that we like each other or that we are going out, and I'm bombarded with questions.
NEWSFLASH, just because I am really good friends with a guy does NOT mean that I am attracted to him! Right now I am not interested in ANY of my guy friends, so keep that little tid bit in mind when your inner matchmaker starts to whisper in your ear!
I honestly just wish I could have ONE really good guy friend that I can talk to all I want without everyone asking "Oh do you like him?! Are you two going out?! WHEN'S THE WEDDING?!"...Yes, someone has asked me "When is the wedding?" -_-
So yeah....uhhh bye!
-Kirstin
NEWSFLASH, just because I am really good friends with a guy does NOT mean that I am attracted to him! Right now I am not interested in ANY of my guy friends, so keep that little tid bit in mind when your inner matchmaker starts to whisper in your ear!
I honestly just wish I could have ONE really good guy friend that I can talk to all I want without everyone asking "Oh do you like him?! Are you two going out?! WHEN'S THE WEDDING?!"...Yes, someone has asked me "When is the wedding?" -_-
So yeah....uhhh bye!
-Kirstin
FOR REAL! I KNOW! That happens to me all the time. One of my best friends happens to be a guy and I get bad vibes from people, like I'm being judged for it. I guess they think I'm weird or flirty, but it's just that I've known him forever and am comfortable being me around him! Its not fair at all! Cuz, I don't like ANYONE and thats the truth. I share your frustration.
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Don't be so gosh dern flirty if you don't want people to think that. It helps...
ReplyDeleteWas...that comment directed towards me?
ReplyDeleteI would bet big money that "Anonymous" is a girl. *grunts* Well, I'm in the same boat with Ash and Kirstin. This is hard for me because two of my REALLY amazing friends are guys and people get all freaked out over nothing when I'm around them.
ReplyDeleteI act the same way with the guys as I do the girls, but people like to be dramatic and make it something it's not. I think it'd be really great if people stopped acting like they know about others relationships and friendship status.
Kirstin and Ashley, be yourself and love your brothers and best friends. I'm with you guys too! I find it amazing that the Lord can put awesome guys into our lives that make a big impact and help us through life. It's amazing. Praise the Lord!
I think you should keep in mind that 4 most guys, there is no such thing as "just being friends".
ReplyDeleteIf you do anything nice 4 a guy, even just a small compliment or a nice big hug, you are automatically flirting with them in their mind, and they think you like them.
It's like that with almost every guy on the planet. Not all, but most.
figured i'd throw that out there.
I don't completely understand, because my brain totally doesn't work that way. I mean, not EVERY kind act can be taken that way, right? Then I couldn't be nice to anyone. And flirting is a very strong word. It means to be playfully romantic or to be sexual. Uh, maybe everyone needs to relearn the definition - or perhaps guys should define it for us so we can all be on the same page?
ReplyDeleteBut it's good advice. I do have to be careful, you're right. And I know I have room to improve.
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ReplyDeleteAnd, please I'm not trying to challenge you, I was just wondering...I have no clue what sex you are, but do you consider yourself capable of having good girl/guy friends. Are you only close with same-sex friends?
ReplyDelete"Anonymous", do I know you?
ReplyDeleteI'm with Ashley on this one! We can't even be nice to any guy without them thinking we are flirting? Guys just need to stop assuming things!
If you know me, then you know that I'm a hugger. I hug most every guy at school. So let's just say one guy is watching me hug all these other guys. Does the guy watching think that I like everyone? I just don't understand that.
Sorry! That second anonymous was me...not the first one though.
ReplyDeleteI'm not saying anything negative or against you at all. I'm just stating something I come to find as fact.
I'm sorry, but if that's as sadly true as it sounds...then that's pathetic. And if you ask me, I have a lot more confidence in my guy friends than them going around getting all excited because one girl says or does one thing. That's presumption.
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm not saying anything against you either. ;)
*ponders all of this* I am with Ash and Kirstin. I understand where you are coming from Puma, I just think that if guys are that sensitive, then what's the point of being friends? I have more guy friends than I do girl friends only because the guys aren't dramatic and they are easier to connect with. I act the same with all of them and if they think I like them, there is nothing I can do. Now, being careful is definitely something to remember. We can't be stupid because hey, guys are meant to like us. But I'm not gonna act awkward or hide who I really am because they might take it the wrong way. If I think they might be getting the wrong idea, I just talk to them about it. No lie!
ReplyDeleteThat's all I got to say. But I respect everyone's perspective. Mine is just a little different than a few.
*pulls hair our of head* Why do people think that like a guy when you are around them alot???? I totally agree with Kirstin, Beccs, and Ash. It hasn't happened to me, but I have seen the effects that the rumors have on the people they are about. It is rediculous! I mean we are brother and sisters in Christ and the Bible tells us that we need to be close to each other, and not in a sexual way (DUH!!). ANYWAYS, anonomous (not Amanda) you seriously need to get a reality check. Just saying, that was really rude. Hope you think about what you're going to say before you say it next time. Love Jesus,
ReplyDeleteCarlee
*Isaiah 41:13*