You know something I noticed? When some girls like a guy, they try changing themselves to make them more attractive to that guy. For example, lets say a girl likes a guy who is obsessed with video games. The girl will probably either try to learn about games the boy likes, or tell the boy that she LOVES video games, so the guy is more open to her. Or she knows that the boy only likes girly girls, then she'll make herself more girly. You know what I mean?
The only changing we should ever do to ourselves is make ourselves more Christlike, because if the guy only likes you for your interests or looks, it WILL NOT LAST! A teen's interests change like *snap fingers* THAT, and looks will most definitely fade away. Don't try to change yourself to make yourself "perfect" for that guy, because if he truly loves you, he's going to love you no matter what. I forget that all the time.
It's very hard for me to remember that everything is in God's hands. It's so easy to forget that He's in control of everything, including your future spouse! I spend too much time thinking about who "the one" is, that I forget God knows who that one is. God will reveal that guy to me on His time, and I need to stop worrying that I'm going to miss it! I don't need to date other guys to find the right one, God is just going to have to show him to me when the time is right. I have confidence in that.
Lots of Love,
Kirstin
The only changing we should ever do to ourselves is make ourselves more Christlike, because if the guy only likes you for your interests or looks, it WILL NOT LAST! A teen's interests change like *snap fingers* THAT, and looks will most definitely fade away. Don't try to change yourself to make yourself "perfect" for that guy, because if he truly loves you, he's going to love you no matter what. I forget that all the time.
It's very hard for me to remember that everything is in God's hands. It's so easy to forget that He's in control of everything, including your future spouse! I spend too much time thinking about who "the one" is, that I forget God knows who that one is. God will reveal that guy to me on His time, and I need to stop worrying that I'm going to miss it! I don't need to date other guys to find the right one, God is just going to have to show him to me when the time is right. I have confidence in that.
Lots of Love,
Kirstin
I agree with you, but there is a balance. Like with Brian. I try to like the things he likes because I think it's important to be involved with things he enjoys. For instance, Brian loves landscaping. He is majoring in business because he wants to own a landscaping company. Well, I'm not really into plants, and I don't like working out in the yard, but because I love Brian....I'm gonna learn to love plants and things like that. I'm gonna take a class at Volstate on botany, just so I can know about it and encourage him by being involved. See what I'm saying?
ReplyDeleteI get where you are coming from though. It annoys me when girls act like they love something when a week ago they didn't care for it. Like I told Brian straight up that I was never into landscaping and that I hate working in the yard. I didn't pretend to love it over night. He should love me through my differences and know that I'll do my best to like it more and more as time goes on.
Shutting up. I'm rambling.
I agree with you, Becs! I meant when a girl changes herself just to get a guys attention, not because she wants to really wants to have a good relationship with him. I should have clarified more :P
ReplyDeleteOHHHH! *jumps up and down* I get it!
ReplyDeleteI have smart friends. =]
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